Happy Girl on the Rise Wednesday!

Let me start by saying that I’m super excited to share today’s newsletter with you. It’s a topic that's very near and dear to my heart, mainly because it's something I struggled with for so long in my own journey. That’s why in today’s newsletter, I’m going to share with you some powerful advice. So, if you’re feeling lost, love someone who is, or you just feel like you’re behind in life, this newsletter is for you!

Today’s newsletter is 1,300 words (6-minute read).

This week’s affirmation:

“Even in the unknown, I am guided, growing, and exactly where I need to be.”

The Truth About “Feeling Lost”

Let me guess, at some point in your life, you were told that by a certain age you’d have the perfect body, the dream job, you’d be living in your ideal city, you’d have a love story worthy of a Netflix deal etc. etc.

Now let me take another guess… You haven’t exactly met these so-called “life milestones.” So now, you feel lost and wonder what’s wrong with you.

But spoiler: nothing is wrong. Social media often makes it seem like everyone but you is thriving. You’re bombarded with content that zooms in on the highlight reels and crops out the chaos.

I spent most of my 20s feeling lost. I didn’t know who I was. I didn’t know what I wanted. And everywhere I looked, it seemed like everyone else had it figured out. They were living their absolute best life.

And this left me feeling overwhelmed, alone, and hopeless because I didn’t understand what was wrong with me that I couldn’t “figure it out.”

And my defining moment, where I realized that nobody really has their life figured out, was military boot camp. Talk about a “feeling lost in life” shitshow. However, this moment was a game-changer because it helped me realize that it’s actually normal to feel lost and that I wasn’t the only one who felt like they were lost in life.

That’s a truth that nobody really tells you!

1. It’s NORMAL to feel lost.

2. You are NOT ALONE in feeling that way.

But because this isn’t something that’s told to you growing up, when you get into your late teens, early twenties, and even thirties and beyond, and this feeling begins showing its face, you think you are broken because you’re not supposed to feel this way. So you feel like an outlier compared to everyone else who seemingly “has it figured out.”

But, again, absolutely NOBODY on the face of this planet has it figured out. And EVERYONE (like literally everyone) feels lost at some point in their life.

Why “Feeling Lost” Is A Gift.

Though it may not feel like it in the moment, feeling lost is actually a gift. How? Because if you are courageous enough to explore the feelings behind the feeling, it actually leads to more self-awareness and joy.

Feeling lost is the perfect opportunity to explore why you feel lost. Like, literally get a piece of paper and write at the top, “Why do I feel lost?”

Do you feel like you’ve missed life milestones?

Do you feel like you’re not living aligned with your values?

What emotions are underneath the frustration?

If you allow yourself to answer this question honestly and authentically, you can gain a lot of insight! And that is a gift because it helps you determine your next move, the one that could help you find yourself and live a more aligned life!

And if the insight that you gain requires you to make some big choices, here’s another truth you need to know: there are no wrong choices! (aside from the ones that land you in jail or worse)

The paralysis that comes with decision-making is real! Especially when those choices could have a massive impact on your life. But please understand that if the choice you need to make is a step toward a direction you want to take and it has the chance at bringing you more joy and fulfillment, IT’S NOT WRONG! It’s just the next thing you’re figuring out on your life journey.

Now, since this newsletter is about helping you and providing you with tools, here are some mindset shifts to help you move forward with clarity, confidence, and self-compassion.

The Life-Changing Mindset Shifts

1. Feeling lost isn’t failure, it’s feedback.

   Instead of thinking “I’m failing at life,” try shifting to:

   “This is a signal that something isn’t aligned, and I get to figure out what this is.”

   Being lost can actually be a compass pointing you toward change.

2. Uncertainty is where possibilities are born.

   Feeling lost often means you’re in a transitional season. Instead of fearing it, embrace it. Try thinking:

   “This is a blank page. I get to write what comes next.”

   The unknown holds so much new potential!

3. Your worth isn’t tied to your direction.

   When we feel lost, we often question our value. But your worth isn’t conditional. Reframe it to:

   “Even when I’m unsure, I am still enough.”

   You don’t have to do more to be worthy.

4. You are allowed to evolve.

   Feeling lost may mean you’ve outgrown an old version of yourself (that was part of the case with me!). Try:

   “I’m not lost, I’m in the process of becoming.”

   Letting go of who you were is part of becoming who you’re meant to be.

If Nothing Else, Remember…

There’s no timeline! That is one of the greatest lies our society tells.

You’re not too late. You’re not too early. You are perfectly on time, no matter where you are in your life journey. And one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself is to take a little pressure off. Relax. Take a deep breath. Have a little bit of fun.

That’s one of the lesser-known secrets behind not feeling lost. Have a little bit more fun with your once-in-a-lifetime opportunity at life.

The answers will come, but stressing about them probably won’t make them appear any faster.

Until next time, keep going and keep growing!

Coach Tay

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